Our Houston-area senior loved ones are the most independent, resilient, and mobile generations that our country has experienced in recent decades.
Most of our parents survived World War II, The Great Depression and The Dust Bowl. Our parents raised their children during the Civil Rights Movement and Vietnam!
Our parents have seen it all, done it all, and heard it all! Our fathers were establishing businesses and carving lifetime careers following post-World War II recovery and our mothers were shattering glass ceilings in the workplace.
It’s no wonder that we find our fiercely independent parents fending off our help and demanding control of their lifestyle. However, as adult children, we realize that some changes should be made in order to ensure the safety of our parents and to promote the lifestyle that they crave.
Dr. Amy D’Aprix, author of From Surviving to Thriving: Transforming Your Caregiving Experience, as helpful points for us to consider when we are addressing possible changes with our parents.
Five Strategies to Help Counter a Senior’s Resistance to Assistance:
1. Understand where the resistance is coming from. Ask your parent why they are resisting; sometimes they don’t realize they are not being open to new ideas.
2. Explain your goals. Remind your loved one that you both have the same goals. Explaining that a little extra help in the home will keep your mom at home longer and ease your mind.
3. Bring in outside help. You may need to ask a professional, such as a geriatric care manager, for an assessment. A respected third party may be better received by your parent.
4. Research your options to find the best resources for your loved one. The Houston Area Agency on Aging or the Houston and Southeast Chapter of Alzheimer’s Association have excellent resources.
5. Respect your parent’s decisions. It’s okay if you don’t always agree with your parent’s decisions. As long as your loved one is of sound mind, he or she should have the dignity of the final decision.
Note: If your senior has dementia, please seek professional assistance from a doctor or other senior expert. Logic often will not work and other strategies must be employed.
Source: Dr. Amy D’Aprix, author of From Surviving to Thriving: Transforming Your Caregiving Experience compiled these strategies. You may learn more about family caregiving by visiting http://www.dramycaregiving.com/